We, as humans, can tend to live our lives consumed by worry. We, however, do have the option of choosing to enjoy a relaxed state of mind. This comes from the ultimate realization that worry serves no purpose. Stewing in worry is a physical and emotional energy drainer. Worrying is a self-imposed practice, but so commonplace. It is a mechanical habit as our emotions react to “life stuff”– an unnecessary congestion of our psyches. There are many catalysts that can spark the cycle of concern. It takes a mind over matter state of being to be able to refuse to allow “life worries” to have that kind of control over us.
Just remember Erma Bombeck’s words when she said, (in that little way she had) “Worry is like a rocking chair—it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
When my son was a five year old, he worried about expiration dates on foods. He made himself the official inspector of the foods in our refrigerator in an effort to make sure that all the ham, milk, cheese, blah, blah, blah were not one second passed the day of termination. He had a fear of getting sick from germs, mold that could grow one mere second after the expiration date and other such “yucky-ness.” As a result of this concern, when he went to visit his friends at their homes, he could not trust that all the food met up to his expiration date standards. Therefore, to be on the safe side, he never ate anything at other people’s homes. One day, the mother of one of his friends called to say that she could not get him to eat anything. She said that after her fourth attempt with enticing food ideas, he finally, in exasperation, said, “No, thank you. I only eat trout.” What an ingenious answer! He surmised that the odds of her having trout on hand were remote and she would leave him alone.
I wrote a children’s book called I Only Eat Trout-learn to cope with worry. It has a Worry Pouch in the back and a sticky pad where kids can write down their worries and toss them into the pouch. It, also, has a Happy Thoughts Pad where they can focus on the positive and write down what makes them smile each day. It has been well-utilized in the school system and in homes. I had a college student who emailed me to say that it has been helpful for her. Worrying spans all ages.
Update: My son is a graduate of NC State having participated in their ROTC program. He requested active military duty and is now a 1st Lieutenant in the US Army. He is dedicated to supporting our country. I am very proud of him!
In conclusion… give yourself the healthy gift of the absence of worrying. Don’t let it take up an ounce of your energy. You owe it to yourself for a relaxed mind, body and spirit.
Perhaps, we should listen to Mary C. Crowley who said, “Every evening I turn my worries over to God. He’s going to be up all night anyway.” Enough said….
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